The Meaning of Life

I know you’ve got a lot of questions — after all, that’s the reason why you came to read this blog…
But before I get to those, I thought it might be good for you to know who you’re talking with, so I’d like to tell you a little bit about myself.  2b6e81d47150d37b6edcc4c77030691e
First of all, let’s get a few things out in the open. I consider myself to be a spiritual person. But that does not mean that I am a perfect person. I have plenty of faults. I can swear like a sailor, I enjoy a good dirty joke, and if the truth be told, being a psychic does not mean I make the best choices for myself.  When people say have patience, or be positive, etc…it makes me want to punch them in the throat, in fact, it’s been a real rock in my underwear…the patience part that is.  
Perhaps people just need to learn to have awareness and just allow others to ‘feel’ and not always try to fix.  Life isn’t about fixing other’s but becoming more aware, finding ourselves in this maze we call life, being understanding and less judgmental. But don’t get me started. Aside from the usual number of human flaws, I think I’m pretty easy to get along with. Just your average Maritime Canadian girl who talks to the dead.
I’m a pretty upfront person, but I haven’t always been open about that last bit. I really dislike talking about myself. Not because I am ashamed but because people always want something, or they fear what they don’t understand, or they have opinions on what and how you should use this skill.  I would rather people know me for me as a human being who has parents, husband, children and siblings that love them instead of what I can do.  The biggest and most powerful lesson I have learned so far is that you can’t please everyone!  So I don’t ever try….it’s much less painful to just continue to be me – I don’t try to be smarter, cuter, funnier than anyone else.  To make me sound even stranger, I am taking a beginner bee keeping course next month!

Through the work I do it’s very difficult to not try to please everyone, to give them what I feel they so desperately need…peace.  I have learned that it is not up to me to determine what’s best for someone.  Nor is it the other person to determine what they need from me.  I just relay messages from Spirit, it is up to the individual to figure out what’s best for them.

Something to think about….people approach the topic of suffering from two separate perspectives. One is the “intellectual agenda:” A person is bothered by this issue and wants to intellectually understand it. The other is the “emotional agenda:” A person may right now be suffering (or know someone who is suffering), and it is bothersome emotionally. It’s important to understand that these two agendas don’t always coincide. Someone with an intellectual agenda wants answers, whereas someone with an emotional agenda is looking for relief. An approach for one won’t work for the another.

I heard a cute story I’d like to share. There once was a farmer who owned a horse. And one day the horse ran away. All the people in the town came to console him because of the loss. “Oh, I don’t know,” said the farmer, “maybe it’s a bad thing and maybe it’s not.”
A few days later, the horse returned to the farm accompanied by 20 other horses. (Apparently he had found some wild horses and made friends!) All the townspeople came to congratulate him: “Now you have a stable full of horses!” “Oh, I don’t know,” said the farmer, “maybe it’s a good thing and maybe it’s not.”
A few days later, the farmer’s son was out riding one of the new horses. The horse got wild and threw him off, breaking the son’s leg. So all the people in town came to console the farmer because of the accident. “Oh, I don’t know,” said the farmer, “maybe it’s a bad thing and maybe it’s not.”
A few days later, the government declared war and instituted a draft of all able-bodied young men. They came to the town and carted off hundreds of young men, except for the farmer’s son who had a broken leg. “Now I know,” said the farmer, “that it was a good thing my horse ran away.”
The point of this story is obvious. Life is a series of events, and until we’ve reached the end of the series, it’s hard to know exactly why things are happening.  That’s one reason we should give respect to every elderly person – because through the course of life experience, they have seen the jigsaw puzzle pieces fall into place.

Sometimes what we perceive as punishment is really an opportunity for growth.  What does it mean to be tested? You have potential. Now the question is can you actualize your potential? We grow when we have to extend ourselves.  On a personal note, I must be a bloody genius!
We look at life as “I’m here for growth, so how does this situation help me to change and grow?”  When the creator is telling you to sacrifice your only son, can there be any greater punishment? Yet it changed the whole future of the Jewish people. “Tests” can change your future, too.

I’ve seen so much suffering, and it seems to me that the key is ‘attitude’. How people deal with it depends on what attitude they have. I have seen people whose attitude was of anger or hurt to such an extent that they never got beyond a particular event – which then became the defining moment of their lives. In a certain sense, life stopped at that particular moment.
On the other hand, I have seen people who have gone through the most horrendous things, but their attitude was a positive one of believing that there is an ultimate good, of asking how I can learn and grow from this. It was incredible to see their sense of dignity, and the inspiration they gave to others. How they moved on with their lives. The contrast is so unbelievable between these two attitudes.

What is the meaning of life?  Perhaps it depends on our attitude, the way we live each day of our lives.  All I know is that there is more to life than just here in the physical world. You don’t have to believe in psychics and mediums. I’m not here to prove anything or defend my work. I’m here for you to have the experience of knowing that your loved ones are still with you, that there is more to life and death than we may think.  
I would love, appreciate and accept your comments.  In fact, I’m looking greatly forward to them. Please let me know what you think, your concerns, questions, and wants.  Until next time, take care of yourself and stay aware!

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  Barb Mather
Psychic Medium
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  1. Cyril Verdon says:

    Thank You Barb ! Nice to read you. Very personal and authentic.
    Life is …
    an observation…
    a state of mind…
    a game…
    an adventure…
    a mystery…
    an experiment…
    a school…
    an illusion…
    and so much …

  2. Some really great messages and learning opportunities here Barb. Thanks for the clarity. I do believe and agree that a positive way of thinking can absolutely guide you in a good direction. My mother and sister were proof of that. They knew they were very very ill yet they both continually looked toward something positive in each of their situations. Your blog today makes me want to try even harder to look for positive points in my life even when I feel like I’m failing. Thanks so much Barb for sharing your thoughts and feelings.

  3. This is so perfect and just what I needed to hear right now. You are a fantastic writer. I’ve never seen a blog post of yours before so I’ll go back and look for more- just wanted to thank you. So clear, intelligent, funny and beautiful from the inside out!

    Looks like a good new year for you- full of clarity!
    Thanks again!

  4. I read your explanation again and got much more the second time around. I believe it’s thoughtful and well written. I totally agree with you on all of your points, intellectual versus emotional healing from grief. Some of us have both issues. I’ve done meditation, several Mediumship readings, and life regression therapy. I’ve found some answers and some relief from the pain of grief. The big shift in my life has been getting to know me better and to come alive with my wishes and desires, to follow my heart. I’ve become a more spiritual person and therefore a much happier person. Thank you for your work ❤️

  5. Liked this explanation of your work and what it means!

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